The power of "NO"

No is one of the most attractive words that you can say to a woman.

Not all the time. Not to every question, request, or favour she asks you. 

But to things that you don’t want to do, just say no. 

Say it without emotion, say it gently, but say it firmly and resolutely.

“Will you buy me a drink?”

“No.”

It truly can be that simple. A lot of guys tend to overcomplicate the process of being attractive to women. Much of it is to do with a man’s status. And one feature of a man of status is his boundaries. So if she wants something that crosses your boundaries, don’t bend over backwards to help fulfill her every need just because she is hot.

“Will you come over and do XYZ for me?”

“No, sorry. I’m playing rugby with the guys then.”

“But will you miss it to help me, just this once?”

“No.”

There is a certain art to enforcing your boundaries without being a dick. And don’t try and do this tactically, as she will smell the deceit in it. Men will smell the deceit in such an action too. It’s a pretty common power game to play, turning down peoples offers to get one over them. Don’t be that guy.

“You don’t need to go to work this early. Just stay here and lie with me”

“No, I’ve already committed, my team need me.”

“Please, I just want to lie here for five minutes. Just five more minutes”

“No. I love my work, and people are relying on me”

“just stay here for a bit… you know I’m feeling really horny…”

“Me too, but still no. I’ll be back this evening”

The only way to say no while not getting into an argument, also happens to be the most attractive way to say no. Say it gently, but totally firmly. Stick to your guns. Be a man. Do not get emotional when she does. The more emotional she gets, the more calm and resolute you get. Be the steady rock in the hurricane seas of her emotions.

“Will you hold my drink?”

“No”

“Please… I’m worried that it might get spiked. My friend got spiked in this club a few months ago”

….Pause….

….Think about it….

“Ok sure, this is a pretty grungy place”

As already mentioned, lets skip the power games. We’re not 12 years old anymore. I’m not telling you to refuse her each and every request just to prove you can. That’s just childish. If the request is a legitimate one, then go with it. But don’t be afraid to say no if the request is bullshit.