How to get a girl by avoiding the marketing bullshit

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One of the biggest problems I found when I was first learning to get better with the fairer sex, was that the people selling products and programmes on the internet would say absolutely anything in their sales letters to make me buy their product.
“Learn this simple 9 step system, execute steps A3 and C1, make out with her in C2, and even the biggest nerd can be having sex with models and strippers.”
“With just these secret lines and routines you can get any girl!”
“This is only one way to seduce a woman – my way. But it here for only $49. But there are only 26 copies left, and are selling out fast!”
This had two effects on me that stopped me getting hot girls. The first was that I spent hours and hours learning huge amounts of knowledge and information that didn’t get me any closer to getting hot girls. I was memorizing long routines and fancy ways to open a conversation. I was learning stuff about astrology and other things I just didn’t care about, but had been told would help me get girls.  It was a total waste of time, and only made me into a weird guy.

I’ve since learned that becoming a great ladies man can be learnt really, really quickly. It’s also really simple. It just requires honest with yourself, pushing yourself, and being willing to try stuff out and see how it works for you. You have to want to change yourself into a better you, to get a girl. If you aren’t getting hot girls, but you refuse to change yourself, then clearly there is a disconnect. It is pretty obvious that you are going to be disappointed with your own results. You have to be willing to change yourself. If you are ready and willing to do this, you can learn to be great with the ladies very quickly, and without needing hours of study. So much of learning how to get a girl, is just being willing to change yourself.

The second thing that screwed me up, and stopped me getting hot girls, was that the way the marketing had made me think, didn’t make me happier as I was learning. It was the opposite – it made me much more unhappy. This was because the marketing was making huge claims that blew the simple act of talking to girls completely out of proportion, and so with every little failure and rejection, I felt bad about myself. With every rejection or harsh word from a girl, I would beat myself up. I now realise the most of times I was rejected was just a result of the golden ratio (article on this coming soon or check out my upcoming book), but at the time I thought I was doing everything wrong.

You see, there are certain ideas that are universally attractive to the male ego. Ideas like that the biggest nerd can get the hottest girls by just learning these lines or this system, and they won’t need to change themselves at all. They can get the hotties regardless. Or the idea that by using a special 3 part conversation starter, that a guy will never get rejected again. The biggest problem with all these online products is the negative mindsets, unrealistic expectations, and just plain terrible advice that they come with. Which then leads to guys not picking up any awesome girls, as no awesome girl wants an unhappy, unattractive guy.
To help you out, below is a list of stupid mindsets that will screw you up when learning to meet hot chicks. In the future, I’ll probably cover each in more depth, and I’ll amend this post with links. You might want to bookmark this in advance. Or just subscribe to email or RSS updates.

• The idea that you can get any girl – No one can get every girl, no matter how much of a smooth talker they are, how many women they have pulled before, how good looking they are, or anything else. You can never predict her preferences or her history, so relax. The best in the world get rejected more than you can imagine. And that’s why they are successful.
• The idea that if you got blown out, it was your fault – Sometimes it is, and sometimes it isn’t. A lot of the time you can do everything perfectly right, and still not get the girl. She has her own life and life experiences, and preferences, that you can never predict. Sometimes you just aren’t right for her, whether you want a one night stand, or a long term relationship.
• The idea that if a girl flakes, it was your fault – sometimes it is, sometimes it isn’t. Like the above point, sometimes she just reconsidered her feelings for you. Sometimes she met another guy after you. Sometimes her ex called. You don’t know, so don’t beat yourself up.
• The idea that all girls want the same thing – of course they don’t. Some girls want a relationship and will screen really hard for it. Some girls are shallow and only want looks and money. There are certain male personality traits that almost all women are attracted to, but realise there will always be exceptions. So don’t get too hung up on anything.
• The idea that there is a linear process to get girls – There just isn’t. Every girl you meet is different, and hence every seduction will be a bit different.
• The idea that one method/model of picking up a chick is better than all the others – some are better than others, but the best is the one that makes you happiest.
• The idea that you need to impress her – no you don’t. I’ve picked up girls which I’ve done nothing to impress them.
• The idea that you need to dress loudly/weirdly/peacocking – The best way to get girls is just to have good fashion. Don’t dress loudly just to attract attention, that idea only works for only a tiny percentage of men.
• The weird feeling of superioriority over guys who aren’t learning this – Don’t get the oversuperiority complex. Live and let live. There are loads of guys who have never read about getting better with girls who are absolute pimps.
• Talking in weird jargon – just don’t do it. Lots of learning to get the hottest girls is just about learning to be more normal. Talking in weird jargon isn’t normal.
• Replacing overly positive ideas about women, with overly negative ones – I’m going to do a whole post on this to do it justice. Check back soon.
• Falling into a cult mentality, with hero worship for certain teachers – Some guys on the internet say they get loads of women. These tend to be the exact same guys who are doing the dishonest marketing this article has been talking about, and hence some guys become absolute hero worshippers for these guys. Don’t do that, it’s not good for you.
• Feeling like you have to abandon your past life – You don’t, picking up chicks should become a part of your life. A small part, although a fun one. Life is about balance.
• Using other people’s jokes and lines, and then being surprised when you come across as weird – This is kind of obvious.
• That other people’s jokes/lines/routines are better than what you would come up with, because they have been proven to work – logically, they worked for that person and in that situation. Therefore you can’t expect them to be any better than stuff you would come up with. Just learn to be normal, you don’t need to be funny, and you don’t need to have the perfect thing to say. The words you say aren’t that important anyway, body language is much more important.
• That you need to be indirect with your intentions – direct works too.
• That you need to be direct with your intentions – indirect works too.

This is not an exhaustive list, but these are the main beliefs that internet marketing will screw you up with. But relax, the first step removing bad mindsets is to realise that you have them, and if you have just found that you have one of the above, then you now know what to work on.
So get working.